Check-in Day 2: Control My Temper Even Better
Let’s have a quick check:
- You thought of and wrote down the calm down ritual yesterday .
- You got the tiny thing in pocket and daily reminder ready.
Well done! Next, I want to suggest you to do the following mental exercises that will significantly shift your paradigm.
Prepare a list of grunt work
Why? Simply because it will help turn your rage into productivity.
Get a list of grunt work that is not very interesting (better they’re physical stuff) but needs to be done. When you feel that you almost lose control on the emotion, do the list of work and cross it out when you’re finished.
Maybe the copier needs to be moved or someone needs to get some boxes of old files out of storage. Do it and burn off some of that pent up rage. Whatever the task, you’ll feel better and get tons of work done. Sometimes work is the best distraction of all.
Imagine yourself getting angry when you’re “calm”
It will even be better if you can write it down on a paper and describe it as vividly as you can.
If you imagine how you look and behave while you’re angry, it gives you some perspective on the situation. For instance, if you’re about to shout at your co-worker, imagine how you would look. Is your face red? Are you waving your arms around? Would you want to work with someone like that?
This can help remind yourself how bad it will be if you lose temper.